“Bittersweet is the
idea that in all things there is both something broken and something beautiful,
that there is a sliver of lightness on even the darkest nights, a shadow of
hope in every heartbreak, and that rejoicing is no less rich when it contains a
splinter of sadness.
Bittersweet is the
practice of believing that we really do need both the bitter and the sweet, and
that a life of nothing but sweetness rots both your teeth and your soul. Bitter
is what makes us strong, what forces us to push through, what helps us earn the
lines on our faces and the calluses on our hands. Sweet is nice enough, but
bittersweet is beautiful, nuanced, full of depth and complexity. Bittersweet is
courageous, gutsy, earthy.” –Shauna Niequist, Savour
I have tried for the last three months to put words down to
process what we went thru this last year and I just couldn’t find the words until
I read the paragraph above. 2015 was bittersweet for us.
Almost a year ago(!) Chet and I were standing under that
giant oak tree as we promised one another “…for better or for worse, in
sickness and in health…”. We celebrated
with our close friends and family on a truly perfect day. As I replay that day
in my head and look at pictures, my heart wants to burst.
We have been given lots of practice in living out the words
we said to each other. More than either of us ever anticipated. My health threw
us a curve ball I wasn’t ready for. There were many dark nights where I couldn’t
see past the tears because the pain and heaviness of my disease seemed like too
much to bear. From holding me in the middle of the night because the pain woke
me up, to spending each night in the hospital because I didn’t want to be
alone, Chet has been my rock. He has seen my at my worst and loved me through
it. He understood when many around us didn’t.
Chet and I have had several conversations about how our expectations
for this year were quickly dashed as life happened. As I have grieved the loss
of those things, we both can see ways this time has caused us to grow deeper
together. The bitterness of pain and disease brought the sweetness of growing
together with Chet.
It is a new year. And with that, I hope a new chapter in our
story. I am learning to give myself and my body grace. We are still in the
healing process.
I often think about that giant oak tree. It has worn and scraggly
branches. It has seen decades of seasons. It has weathered freezing temperatures
and unbearable heat. But each spring it pushes out new leaves. And its roots
continue to go deeper. I pray the same for our marriage.
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ReplyDeleteLove your thoughts, you Re both in my prayers!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your thoughts and reflections Andrea. So very much appreciated!
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